Diary of a Millennial Mama

Do you know what a Love Language is?

I used to think that your Love language is how you “receive” love but apparently there are two sides to it – Giving and Receiving – and how you instinctively give or show love may not necessarily be the same as how you receive or feel love. 

Now this may be an arguable statement, but to me, the most important factor for any relationship to work is knowing each other’s love languages.

Hear me out.

When I was a teenager, I revered my parents’ relationship. So much so that I would continuously brag about it to my friends. In my eyes, they were a match made in heaven. My mother was loving and nurturing while my father was firm and strict. To me, they struck the perfect balance in keeping our family in harmony.

It was only when I became an adult and went back to live with them that I started seeing their relationship for what it truly was. I won’t go into too much detail but basically, my mom was a giver. She would give and give and give until she had nothing left for herself. That was how she showed love. Her (giving) love language was “Acts of Service,” and I think that was my dad’s (receiving) love language. So in a way, that worked… to my dad’s favor at least.

My mom’s receiving love language, however, was physical touch, and my dad was just not the touchy type. So I think you get the picture.

Of course no relationship/marriage is perfect and my parents were no exception. But I still believe theirs was one of the best love stories God has ever written – in sickness and in health, together even beyond death. They were soulmates.

The bottom line is that knowing your partner’s love language helps avoid misunderstandings, because then you know exactly how to make them feel loved, and vice versa. This does not just apply to romantic relationships but to all types of relationships.

I think my love language was always quality time, and luckily so is my husband’s. As in we could be sitting beside each other, not talking and doing our own thing for hours and still feel loved. Is that weird? Haha.

How about you? Do you know what your partner’s love language is? How about your kids’ love languages?

I’d love to hear your stories!